Jul 10, 2013
You are focused on getting your ex back, but you cannot necessarily count on the support of your friends and family. Depending on the history between you and your ex, other people in your life could be actively against it. There could be bad blood between your family and your ex. This would not be hard to understand since they would naturally feel bad that they broke up with you and would likely hold it against them.
This is something you will have to be aware of and deal with as you move forward. Magic of Making Up wants you to stay focused on your efforts to get your ex back and not let family and friends talk you out of it. You will have to continue to pay attention to the issue, as your ex becomes a part of your life again. When things go well with them hopefully the other people in your life will come to accept the situation even if they are not their favorite person.
First Date and Magic of Making Up
According to conventional wisdom you only have one chance to make a first impression. You only have one chance to have a first date with a potential girlfriend. In your case you had a first date and it went well enough for you to have other dates and ultimately a relationship. But now she is your ex and you want her to be your girlfriend again. Can you have another “first date” with her and have a chance at making another first impression?
The Magic of Making Up wants you to understand that while you are not going to fool your ex into getting back with you, you should make every effort to reinforce positive reactions. She is not going to forget everything that happened before, but you want her to see that the relationship will not be the same as it was the first time around. You are not going to be able to turn the clock back, but you can give yourself a chance at a fresh start.
Magic of Making up and Promises
People make a lot of promises. We keep some and break others; it is part of life. But if you were in the habit of breaking promises this could have been a reason your ex broke up with you. It is a matter of trust you will have to work on. In some ways it is a matter of managing expectations because you do not want to start making promises you cannot keep and get into the same kind of trouble you were in before.
The Magic of Making Up wants you to make promises if they are sincere, but if you promise the moon and do not deliver it is worse than not making it in the first place. Small promises you can keep will do a lot more to rebuild your ex’s trust and confidence. Promise to do your best to win her back then do your best to keep it. She will appreciate a genuine effort to keep promises even if it is impossible to keep them all.